Childhood, Confessions of A Woman, Life

A Woman Who Still Love Her Dolls

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Dear Confession,

 Every adult has a hobby. Some adults love going to the gym,  for some, maybe creating artwork, or blogging. I love all these hobbies, but my favorite hobby (besides writing)  is collecting Barbies Dolls.

Yes, I am a 23 year old woman who collects Barbie dolls and on occasion, play with them.

Nope, I have no shame.

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Let me give you a back story about how this all happened…

This phenomenon started when I was a  little girl. Barbie was the golden era of my childhood. I had over maybe 100s of barbies. I had celebrity barbies like the Spice Girls, Britney SpearsBrandy and Shakira

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I also have had a pregnant Barbie doll. Yes, that doll existed until the over-sensitive parents complained that it promoted teen pregnancy.

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Oh and did I tell you that on the box, it did say that Midge, the pregnant doll, was married? Most folks don’t read anymore.

 I also had a Barbies pool, Corvette, and a hotel.

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I remember wanting every single Barbie advertised on TV whenever there was a commercial break in between my favorite cartoon shows.

My childhood was completed and blissful until my step father thrown them away in a dumpster behind my back. I was only 11 and that was a dark moment of my childhood. All I had left was my Barbie hotel. My step father few months later asked me if I was ready to get rid of my barbie hotel and I said,”Might as well since my hotel has been out of business for the past few months because no longer have customers.” After giving it away, my relationship with my step-father changed. The trust and the father-daughter relationship was ruined.

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So life went on…,but the phenomena did not stop.

During my high school years, whenever I would go shopping, I would go the toy section to check out the new Barbies on display when I had the chance.

During my freshman year in college, I decided to buy a Barbie doll for the first time in six years. I bought a doll, brought it home, but would hide them whenever my parents, friends, or roommate were present. The only two people that knew about my secret was my grandmother and my then-boyfriend at that time.

So throughout my college years, I would buy a doll for special occasions like my birthday or Christmas. Sometimes I would buy one just for the fun of it because I had a job.

I was not the only one in the family that loves to collect dolls.  My Great Aunt Mary also collects Barbie dolls. She has a house full of Barbies from the 1970s to present.  I  love going to her house seeing all the dolls from every decade. It is also fun to share my collection with her.

After my mother’s divorce, I finally confessed to  my (ex) step-father about collecting dolls and expressed how I felt about what he did when I was little. He admitted that since that dark day, he regretted it because he had a chance to build a relationship with me and ruined it. He also realized how doll collecting was the norm. I understood why he has thrown my Barbies away. He thought I was too old for them and expected me to be like any other pre-teen worrying about sports, house parties, and boyfriends. In result of the conversation, I forgave him and he sent me a peace offering by giving me a Harley Quinn doll.

Currently, I am still collecting dolls. I plan on building my own Barbie Dream house from scratch because I have never been a fan of the Barbie homes that is made of out plastic (except the Barbie hotel).  I would love to form a Barbie collecting club. Who knows? A girl can still dream and make it happen.

Life Lesson #86: It’s your thing, do what you want to do, starting with what makes YOU happy first.

Thank You,

Lady Elle~

 

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To Respect Or Not To Respect?

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“I want YOU to respect your elders!”

Dear, R-E-S-P-E-C-T,

For today’s post, I want to talk about respect ,because it seem as if some  people do not know who to respect, or even know how to respect a person.

Before I go on with explaining about respect, I want to tell you a short story of what happened to Mr. Bird ( A.K.A my boyfriend. I do not reveal real names) the other day.

There was an elderly sweet woman who works with him and she is mostly known to accidently take waiter’s ticket. Why? I am not sure, but employees will joke with her about it and she would joke along too.

Although, the other day, Mr. Bird kindly asked her whether she had his ticket in a joke way and what did she say?

Shut the hell up!“, she yelled.

Therefore, after that disrespectful reply, Mr. Bird confronted her that she should never disrespect people that way if they respect her.

Here is a list of what I believe about using respect.

1. Children should always respect their older relatives, parents, and teachers.

2. Adults and children should respect their elders.

3.  Marriage,relationships,or just friends. Men and women should respect each other.

4. Family members should respect each other.

5. Co-workers should respect each other.

6. The elderly should respect people too.

I am not going to explain the whole list because I believe most of you already know what to do. However, I do want to discuss about  #6, I believe the elderly should deserve to be treated with respect…if they respect you!  Why? There are a few crazy elderly people thinking everyone should respect them, but  they can disrespect you however they want to. That is not respect. That is called taking advantage of respect.

Some of you might say, they should be treated with respect no matter what because they are wiser than we are. Well if they are wiser, why are some of them not wise to respect the younger generation too?

What do you think? (Comment if desired)

Life Lesson #12: Respect people who respect you.

Thank You For Reading,

Lady Elle~