Childhood, Children, Confessions of A Woman, Life, Parenthood, Relationships, Women

Why Do I Want To Be A Parent?

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Dear Life,

So this semester I am taking a senior seminar course about Parenting and Families and on the first day of class, my professor asked the class a question that made me wonder about the future.

The professors asked, “Why do you want to become parent?”

That question may be a easy answer to most folks about why they want be parents, but to me, it just got me thinking. I know time has changed the views of having children. For example, I’m sure when it came to colonization we had to have children to populate. The royals have children to bring in an heir to their throne. People back then wanted children to help around the house or soon take over their parent’s businesses. Although this may be true back then, these reasons do not matter as much anymore.We do not need to populate anymore since there are billions of humans living on  this earth.

I feel like people today want to have children because of desire, cultural legacy, investing.

As for me,my reason to have children is a unknown. Why is that? Well, I am an only child that was raised by a single mother. I was an unplanned child and so was my mother so I guess I cannot ask my mother or  my grandmother about why they decided to become parents.

I am a 23 year old woman who is in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend and obviously other people have their reasons for us to get married and have children, especially my boyfriend’s family. My boyfriend is Hispanic and comes from a culture where having children is a cultural legacy. Therefore, I can see some of that influence in him wanting to become a parent.

Why do I want to be a parent? I just don’t know. If I don’t know, does that mean that I should not have children? I dream about what me and boyfriend’s future child will look like sometimes. I daydream about him and I being parents ,but a serious reason? Its a blur ,but if I do have a child one day, I do want him/her to have a sibling because I do not have siblings.

Concluding the topic, I’m still young and about to graduate from college. My focus right now is getting a job and living stable to where I can maybe think about whether I want a legacy or not. If I ever have children,  it would overall be for love.

Life Lesson #79: You may not know what you want now, but you will know one day.

Thank You,

Lady Elle~

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The Transformation Of Becoming A Healthy Woman

 

 

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Dear Health,

For a few years I have been struggling with losing a few pounds after starting birth control, college binging, and love. Do not get me wrong about love. I am not blaming my boyfriend for this or regret falling in love with him because I love my handsome,loving gentleman. Let us face it folks, gaining weight is one of the main side effects when being in love. If some of you “lucky couples” never had this side effect, maybe you guys are very strick on dieting  and exercising or you two are not really in love with each other like you guys thought you were.

On the bright side, weight gain due to love is reversible. All you got to do is just get up and move and eat healthy. What will be better is to do this with your partner. It is more fun than working out with a friend, especially a female friend. From my experiences, it is always competition, bashing, and complaining when working out with other women. Competition is a natural trait in every animal including human beings but females take competition more seriously than men in  my opinion. For males, they compete and end it once and for all ,but females compete constantly and mostly with few of the same women they do not like. For once I want to see females compete with men. Let us make history for once. Stop bringing other females down, bring them up. Instead of being jealous of her, compliment her. If she bashes you, smile and move on. Show her a better example of a being a lady.  A wise man said that you waste more energy being bitter than being sweet. Preserve your energy by smiling.

Back to the weight loss struggle, I want to take my time. This is not a resolution because resolutions are full of nonsense like television. My first step is to learn to eat healthy  for my internal body. Next, Zumba ! I have to get to know my body before I bust a sweat. That means I got a date with body and hopefully it goes well.

Life Lesson #67: In order to change the world, you must learn to change yourself.

Life Lesson #68: Date yourself and love yourself before you love somebody else.

Thank You,

Lady Elle~