Advice, Anxiety/Depression, Health, Life, Stress

Hello My Dear Aunt Anxiety, its you again..

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Dear Mental Health,

Since graduating from college two years ago and entering this whole new universe of the real world, I have developed more than normal anxiety that seems to affect my everyday life to the point of losing my confidence and self-esteem that I  have built during college.

Before college the only anxiety I had was only minor like test anxiety because I was not  the  best exam taker due to my previous learning disability when it comes to mental processing, but I was confident with my studying and worked hard to earn As and Bs each semester. With making good grades and making friends in college help build my confidence and self esteem. College felt like  pleasure island where you believed you can be anything in the world once you earn that college degree…

Now, in the real world, my dear Aunt Anxiety decided to challenge me into a whole new level. The lump feeling in my throat turned into obsessive thoughts of my life decisions and the fear of failure.  The anxiety became so overwhelming, I felt as though my secret weapons against it were no longer working.



If you ask if I also have depression, I was when I was on hormonal medication. It felt like every night I take it, I feel so much sadder to the point there was a morning where I could not stop crying. I had no reason behind the tears. The tears were just flowing like a continuous broken pipe. Therefore, I had to end it all together so I can be myself mentally.


After ending my hormonal medicine, within two weeks, I was myself again. I no longer feel depressed, but my dear Aunt Anxiety still comes and visits. In order to stop Aunt Anxiety from interfering in my life more than normal, I had to seek professional help.

Now, I am seeing a spiritual counselor. She is nice. I admit, the first meeting was a little intimidating because, like every human being, I did not want to be perceived as crazy , because I think I talked too much because I feel like my mind and body was just anxious for help, guidance, and peace.


Outside of being intimidated, I was excited because since graduating with a psychology degree, I always wanted to experience what it was like to have a spiritual counselor.  To me, it feels so relieved to speak with a professional stranger because speaking with family and friends about your issues is only temporary relief because they love you so much that all they see is perfection, they will never fix that inner deep wound because they cannot see it.  That is why it is important to speak with someone outside of your social circle.

When it comes to mental health, I cannot stress more about the advantage of seeking a counselor.  Counseling can be affordable I have found counseling cheap as $65 per session. Counseling sessions are very flexible. Counseling is mostly once or twice a week for fifty minutes.. Some counselors provide sessions over the phone. Also, if you had a counselor that you did not agree with, there are a million other therapists to explore. Therefore, THERE IS NO EXCUSE!


Life Lesson #93: A healthy mind prepares for the physically challenges ahead.

Life Lesson #94: Never neglect yourself. Upgrade yourself.

Thank you,

Lady Elle~

Advice, Childhood, Crazy, Habit, Inspiration, Life, Parenthood, Relationships, Respect, Stress

I Rather Be A Wise Than A Grown Person!

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Dear Maturity,

A grown person. What is a grown person? Some say you are grown when you are a certain mature age like 18,21, or 30. Some say you are grown when you have experienced life like education, career, marriage, having a family, and retirement. All of these descriptions about being a grown person is totally bull. Sorry,but I don’t buy it.


First of all, let us remove the word “person” and learn the definition of the word “grown”.

Grown: adjective \’grōn\

1.  no longer a child <grown men and women>

Well the word grown seems as if it defines the word “grown” as a sign of fully developed body. In other words, I guess you are considered “grown” after puberty  and I can understand that. Therefore, a grown person has nothing to do with life experiences and age.  Being a grown woman and man may give you benefits ,but it does not make you fully mature and wise.

Trust me, it makes me laugh how some people claim to be a grown person and claim to be mature when you still have some “grown” people that still don’t have common sense. I can’t stand when some people pull out the “grown person” card. They can pull it out as much as they want but they do not deserve the maturity card.

As a young adult about turn 21 years old this year, I rather be a wise person because becoming wise means that you are in a process of gaining knowledge from your life experiences which includes learning from your mistakes. With wisdom and maturity, you will know how to deal issues in the future.  With my developing wisdom, I always want to share it with my family, friends, and of course my blog reading audience.

Some people mistake celebrities to be role models ,but role models should be the parents. I can’t say parents are not perfect role models but they try their hardest to be. When it comes to raising a child, parents do make mistakes. For example, my step-father threw away my all of my Barbie dolls without telling me because he thought I was getting too old for playing dolls. Once my mother found out, she did get angry with him. As for me, I was very upset and never forgave him. Now, as I think about it, I can understand why my step-father did what he did because he has a daughter, and she was the same age as me. At that time, she was outgoing and did not play Barbies. So I guess with this observation from my step-father, he decided to throw all of my toys away for me to be outgoing like his daughter and other kids my age. Therefore, I can understand that he did it to become a role model for me, but he would of handled the situation in a different way and I can see now, every time my mother will bring up the past , I can see in his eyes he made a mistake and feels bad for what he did. As for me, he would of handled the issue by personally talking and expressing his feelings about me not being outgoing as the other preteens. He would have encouraged me to be interested in sports and other outdoor activities in order to make more friends so I can become outgoing. For the first time in my life, I forgive him. I know he wants what is best for me, but all I want from him and my mother is the love, support and respect for my life choices. I know there are things about me they disagree about like me wanting to study journalism and writing, but in order for me to be successful, I am going to need support from my parents.

Life Lesson #65: Mistakes happen but we must learn to brush it off and keep moving. Just remember to learn from it and prevent it from happening again.

Thanks For Reading,

Lady Elle~