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The Creepy Experience of Online Dating


Dear Dating Life,

So a week ago I decided to try online dating for the first time since I have the freedom now ( I had a 6 year relationship). Therefore I would like to say….It was creepy as hell!

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So at first, I joined Tinder and I quit right after because it was boring and Tinder had some kind of trick where you have to swipe right to like in order to go to another set of people. For some, you can tell who were potential catfish users and of course there were beautiful people who were probably getting a million likes a day.

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After quitting Tinder, a friend recommended me trying Okcupid. I admit, I had fun taking these stupid matchmaking questions, but of course, writing my own profile was time consuming.


I chatted with two guys. One guy was very nice, he was French and an engineer. He had a great sense of humor and he was caring. He asked me 1 day later to go out with him ,but it was too soon for me. However, I kept chatting with him.

Another guy I chatted with was a grad student at the same college I graduated from. He was nice, but from the first chat, I had warning signs and I wished I knew sooner to cut him off for good. He acted clingy or perhaps needy. For example, whenever I get a break from Okcupid he would message me with sad emojis wondering if I have lost interest in him. I explained to him that I was busy.



Later we kept chatting on Okcupid and he asked to meet with me in person. I said I would if he agreed to video chat first because meeting people online vs meeting in person is totally different. You never know if the chemistry is real and you can save so much time.

So I was excited yet nervous to finally talk to him and thankfully he was  the same person from the profile picture. However, everything went south!



After the fun basic questions, he started asking personal and inappropriate questions like how thick my legs were and how big my breast were. Of course I replied, “None of your damn business!” I was already ready to shut the call down.


After five minutes of giving him hints that I was no longer interested. I  had to tell him straight up that we was not working.

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I immediately stopped the video call app and deleted my Okcupid account all together. You all can judge me all you want, but I rather meet and feel chemistry in person than online.

After that bad experience from the creepy dude, I feel a little bad about disappearing from the french engineer because I enjoyed chatting with him. There was a connection and a sense of calmness with him unlike the creep. However, my body and spirit said that I need to date nobody but myself. I need to focus only on me because the real world has just started and I need to know more about me.


Overall, it was an experience I had to try.

Life Lesson #85: When life changes, walk, do not run unless…you are in a very bad moment.

Thank you,

Lady Elle~

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My Ideal Modern Disney Princess


Dear Life,

I just got off from a slow day at work and that means my tips are going to be less than $20. Oh well. However, the slow day did wake me up for a second because Little Miss Tart slapped another male employee for no certain reason again and the boy just took the poison and swallowed it. Anyway, I do not want to talk about women hitting men because I have already wrote about it from my last blog post. If you are interested about my opinion about whether women have the right hit men, just click here.

Lately, I have been working out at a local gym trying to get my signature weight back. Hopefully my body gets back in shape before the Christmas holidays. You know, the worst part I hate about gaining weight is that its SO EASY! I wish gaining weight is harder than losing weight.  The most hateful body part I hate to gain weight is my face. My face will tell overall if I have gained or lose weight. As soon as I see my cheeks turning into chipmunk cheeks, I have work it off. I refuse to have a fat face.

Lately this week, I have been reviewing Disney princesses like Cinderella, Snow White, and others. Today, I am thinking about writing a Disney princess story, but not like any other princess. I want to write about a princess who is not a princess ,but can be looked up to like she is one of the Disney princesses.

For example, I was thinking of creating a  modern woman who helps people around the world. Maybe she can be a humanitarian. I want to create some story line where issues still occur today like cancer, poverty, or other issues.

For my Disney princess, I am not sure whether she is going to fall in love. I know all of the other Disney princesses fell in love with some prince, or hero. However, my princess is not going to fall in love so quickly like the others. I would rather focus mostly on this character before I add a mate for her. One of my co-workers think I should have the princess be a lesbian, but America is not ready for a first lesbian princess. Besides, I do not want to get involved in controversial stuff like that. I do not have anything against gay rights, but I do believe that we should not mix child television with gay rights. For example, I read an article about people wanting Sesame Street characters Ernie and Bert to get married.  I am okay with gay marriage,but having children cartoons involved is taking it too far.  If they want their children to know about homosexuality, then it should be between the child and the parents.

Life Lesson #56: Everyone has a right to make a change, be we  have to do it right.

Thanks for Reading,

Lady Elle~