Advice, College Life, Life, Post-Grad Life, Respect

A Perfect Life Sucks!

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Dear Life,

Before I graduated from college, my mind was on Optimistic Island, where I believed that completing a college degree is going to lead me into a world full of fine jobs starting at least on a $30,000 salary scale…

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Oh boy was I DEAD wrong!

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In case some of you are new to this blog site ,or probably missed some of my previous “post-grad blog series”, after college, I went to career fairs, applied for numerous job positions, and tried to network with friendly strangers (also became single for the first time in six years). In result, I held a temporary job as an assessment rater (graded state-wide tests) and now, I am back working full-time (more like 30 hours per week) in retail…

Now of course, there is appreciation for having a job to pay my bills and survive, but to make a living on my own is very impossible.

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However, I am still job-hunting for something better. I just have to keep trying and sometimes use the job I have now to meet and network because you never know who you will meet that will change some of your life for the better.

Gosh, I do envy my cousin sometimes. She is older, currently trying to finish her college degree, but already has a job working for an insurance company that pays her so well that she is able to live on her own and travel to places every season like Las Vegas!

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As for me, I am back living with my mother. However, I cannot complain, but stress that I am not where I want to be right now. On some days, I do question my abilities and wonder what I am doing wrong to prevent greater opportunities from coming. I know for one thing,   I do not fear.

When it comes to job-hunting, I refuse to feel inferior to the hiring managers even when I am a bit nervous. I pretend that I am casually meeting new potential friends with a spice of professionalism of course.

As for applying for jobs, I am only applying three to  five times a week since I have a retail job to fall back on. Before, I was putting so much pressure and stress on me  applying for at least 20 jobs per day to the point when I get emails from different companies about a job interview (mostly  rejection) and I barely remembered which companies I applied for.

 

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Forrest is right…life is like a box of chocolates…I will never know what I am going to get.

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However, life has never been easy. Life is suppose to have struggles, pain, and suffering.

Imagine if life is forever perfect! That will suck, right?

Let’s take…Odysseus for example.  What if he did not have to fight in the Trojan War, bang all the goddesses, and go through hell to return back home to Ithaca. What the plot just said that he went to war, won the war, and returned home to spend time with his son? That will be a boring story, right?

Here is another example, what if Mufasa from the Lion King movie never died? What if Scar was really a good uncle? Would Simba really be the rightful and happy king of the pride lands without the suffering and discovering who he was with the help of Timon and Pumba?! Without Timon and Pumba, we will never know Hakuna Matata!

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What I am trying to say is that…LIFE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PERFECT!

It is okay to go through some things that we sometimes cannot control like our emotions and mentality! If you have depression, anxiety, or other mental illness that is preventing you from having joy, remember that you are creating a beautiful life story of getting better even it is one step at a time. When you come out of that dark moment of your life, you should celebrate it and share that perfect dark yet beautiful life story to someone who is still in the dark trying to get out.  Of course mental illness is not a perfect happy story, but it is a perfect uplifting inspiration for someone who needs to hear it to know that they are NOT alone.

Having an imperfect life defines who we are. So Forrest, pass that box of chocolates!

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Life Lesson #87: “Life does not give you seat-belts.” -Lego Batman

Thank You,

Lady Elle~

Advice, College Life, Crazy, Habit, Life, Respect, Social Media

Facebook Is Becoming a Drag

Dear Social Media Life,
Facebook. Yes, I want to discuss about Facebook. Recent bloggers wrote about the declining interest about staying active on this social site and for their reasons, it is understandable that like Myspace, Facebook had it’s fad and now it’s becoming a drag.

When I first heard about Facebook, I been lectured and attacked verbally by adults saying that Facebook was only for adults. Yea,like that was going to stop kids from joining. I first joined Facebook during my freshmen year in high school because it was a new way of interacting and keeping in touch with (short-term) friends at that time.However, I ended my account because it got boring but returned my freshman year in college just because I wanted to stay in touch with family members,especially my anti-social cousins.

As the years gone by, my account was collecting dust. I stopped updating my status.Facebook got boring and foolish for so many reasons. Here are a list of reasons why I closed my account:

1. Ignorance

Facebook users had become so ignorant.When it comes to certain topics especially politics and religion, ignorant users would write the most arrogant and insulting comments just to attack and make them feel like they are better. You have racists ,”fat shamers”, political jerks, and just ignorant people.For example, I replied to a news post expressing my opinion and all of a sudden, a user replied calling me a “stupid bitch”instead of just expressing why the he disagrees.

Users will be so brave to write their ignorance  online but won’t say it in public because they know they are wrong and don’t want to be right.

About Facebook friends, they can be ignorant too that you have to unfriend them or avoid their post . I have to thank facebook for revealing who they really are because you have people posting some ignorant and disturbing stuff  and that leads to #2.

#2. The post are fucking disturbing.

The videos of people fighting, the pictures of severe sick children, “like this or comment if you like this” and  a picture of a naked girl. Facebook friends posting dark depressing thoughts. Facebook friends spamming your wall with stuff from one facebook page for example, I had one user keep liking Christmas pictures from a Christmas themed facebook page and my wall was just spammed with the user liking every single Christmas picture post and the funniest part, IT WAS ONLY MAY!!!


3. My cousins and friends are still anti-social.

I still can’t get this whole social thing. I remember the good days when internet was not even a need when it came to my childhood. When we don’t see each other in person, we would just call each other on the phone just enjoying the sound of physically talking to each other. Now, I feel people just don’t like to talk at all but send snapchats and text. 7 times out of ten, they don’t reply back. As a millennial , I do worry that my generation will lose the confidence and skill of public communicatation.

4. Nothing new.

Same folks, same strokes. Same usual facebook friends that still remains on the site posting latest pictures and stuff. Same pattern of people’s facebook behaviors. People from my high school who I rarely talked to kept spamming me with friend requests.

5. On the bright side, people are maturing from facebook.

I believe people are starting to miss the moment without Facebook. Every week another person shuts down their account for common reasons. I quit facebook because I wanted to socialize with people outside of the internet. I want to get to know people as time passes not for five minutes studying about the person from his/her profile.

With quitting Facebook, I have more time to focus on me and my goals. Outside of just going to classes, I have been more active at the gym. I enjoy the outdoors. I’m more comfortable with communicating with my peers. Overall, I just been more focused.

I sure do hope someday, people will start interacting more with people outside of social sites. Don’t get me wrong , it’s OK to use social sites sometimes but don’t let it be too often because there is so much life to live outside your phone, computer,tablet etc. Even if you are an introvert, it’s worth to try something new and outgoing.

Life Lesson #78: Avoid your distractions and FOCUS!

Thank you,

Lady Elle.

Comment&Share: What is your opinion about Facebook or other social sites and why or why not you lost interest?