Facebook Is Becoming a Drag

Dear Social Media Life,
Facebook. Yes, I want to discuss about Facebook. Recent bloggers wrote about the declining interest about staying active on this social site and for their reasons, it is understandable that like Myspace, Facebook had it’s fad and now it’s becoming a drag.

When I first heard about Facebook, I been lectured and attacked verbally by adults saying that Facebook was only for adults. Yea,like that was going to stop kids from joining. I first joined Facebook during my freshmen year in high school because it was a new way of interacting and keeping in touch with (short-term) friends at that time.However, I ended my account because it got boring but returned my freshman year in college just because I wanted to stay in touch with family members,especially my anti-social cousins.

As the years gone by, my account was collecting dust. I stopped updating my status.Facebook got boring and foolish for so many reasons. Here are a list of reasons why I closed my account:

1. Ignorance

Facebook users had become so ignorant.When it comes to certain topics especially politics and religion, ignorant users would write the most arrogant and insulting comments just to attack and make them feel like they are better. You have racists ,”fat shamers”, political jerks, and just ignorant people.For example, I replied to a news post expressing my opinion and all of a sudden, a user replied calling me a “stupid bitch”instead of just expressing why the he disagrees.

Users will be so brave to write their ignorance  online but won’t say it in public because they know they are wrong and don’t want to be right.

About Facebook friends, they can be ignorant too that you have to unfriend them or avoid their post . I have to thank facebook for revealing who they really are because you have people posting some ignorant and disturbing stuff  and that leads to #2.

#2. The post are fucking disturbing.

The videos of people fighting, the pictures of severe sick children, “like this or comment if you like this” and  a picture of a naked girl. Facebook friends posting dark depressing thoughts. Facebook friends spamming your wall with stuff from one facebook page for example, I had one user keep liking Christmas pictures from a Christmas themed facebook page and my wall was just spammed with the user liking every single Christmas picture post and the funniest part, IT WAS ONLY MAY!!!


3. My cousins and friends are still anti-social.

I still can’t get this whole social thing. I remember the good days when internet was not even a need when it came to my childhood. When we don’t see each other in person, we would just call each other on the phone just enjoying the sound of physically talking to each other. Now, I feel people just don’t like to talk at all but send snapchats and text. 7 times out of ten, they don’t reply back. As a millennial , I do worry that my generation will lose the confidence and skill of public communicatation.

4. Nothing new.

Same folks, same strokes. Same usual facebook friends that still remains on the site posting latest pictures and stuff. Same pattern of people’s facebook behaviors. People from my high school who I rarely talked to kept spamming me with friend requests.

5. On the bright side, people are maturing from facebook.

I believe people are starting to miss the moment without Facebook. Every week another person shuts down their account for common reasons. I quit facebook because I wanted to socialize with people outside of the internet. I want to get to know people as time passes not for five minutes studying about the person from his/her profile.

With quitting Facebook, I have more time to focus on me and my goals. Outside of just going to classes, I have been more active at the gym. I enjoy the outdoors. I’m more comfortable with communicating with my peers. Overall, I just been more focused.

I sure do hope someday, people will start interacting more with people outside of social sites. Don’t get me wrong , it’s OK to use social sites sometimes but don’t let it be too often because there is so much life to live outside your phone, computer,tablet etc. Even if you are an introvert, it’s worth to try something new and outgoing.

Life Lesson #78: Avoid your distractions and FOCUS!

Thank you,

Lady Elle.

Comment&Share: What is your opinion about Facebook or other social sites and why or why not you lost interest?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Beloved Father’s Day

 

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Dear Father’s Day,

This is the 19th year I celebrate Father’s Day without my father who passed away when I was 3 years old due to cancer. By the time being that long, I cannot even remember the last moments of being with my father. The only thing that keeps the memories and the moments of my father are the pictures that are saved in my photo album.

I did give Father’s Day a try when I had a step-father, but it did not feel complete. It felt awkward and complicated for so many reasons. For the nine years he was married to my mother,  I did not feel any closeness or, bond other than him being an authority figure.  I never called him “father.” I only called him by his first name. Anyway, I tried to celebrate with him, but it felt like a job instead of appreciation because he was not fully engaged like a father should be. He did not spend enough time or engagement of getting to know me and when it comes to my future, he did not unconditionally support my career ambitions. He only supported the plans he wanted for me. Therefore, everything was about him, which was the main reason why the divorce happened.

When it comes to jealousy, I am not the jealous type. I don’t get jealous of other females because I uplift women, not bring them down. I wish all women are like that.  I am in a relationship, but I do not get jealous if my boyfriend checks out other women. I check out other men because I do. There are beautiful people on this earth and why should I miss the opportunity to observe them? Haha.

The only things that get me jealous are people’s fathers who have been with them ever since the beginning. It really makes me hater when the person and the father have a strong relationship.  Don’t get me wrong, I am not madly jealous, only just playful jealous, but sometimes it can hit me a bit emotionally.

Right now, I am currently reconnecting with my grandfather who is the father of my father and my grandmother (when I get the chance). Every time I call them, I always want to know more about them and my father because they are all I have on my father’s side. There are other family members, but they don’t seem to stay in contact with each other unlike my mom’s side of the family.  Therefore, I have to stay in contact with them if anything.

For Father’s Day this year, I am going to celebrate peacefully and call my grandfather to wish him a Happy Father’s Day because even with my dad being deceased. My grandfather is still his dad and I will forever be my father’s daughter.

Life Lesson #75: “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” By Richard Puz.

Thank You,

Lady Elle

 

You Don’t Have To Please Everybody

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You don’t have to change your look
You don’t have to change your weight
You don’t have to act a certain way
You don’t have to rich
You don’t have to be broke
You don’t have to be the best at everything
You don’t have to be depressed or upset
You don’t have to be married
You don’t have to have children
You don’t have to be lonely
You don’t have to give away your number
You don’t have to be straight
You don’t have to be scared
You don’t have to smoke
You don’t have to drink
You don’t have to say yes
You don’t have to say no
You don’t have to put up with someone else’s problems
You don’t have to popular
You don’t have to be nice all the time
You don’t have to please your friends
You don’t have to please your family
You don’t have to please him/her
You don’t have to please your boss
You don’t have to please everybody
Just please yourself
Be yourself
Be you
You

Thank you,

WiseWildFlower