good news, Inspiration, Life, Politics, Respect, Social Media

Catching Up With Lady Elle~


Dear Life,

So the new year is here and 2018 is looking more bright. First of all, I have good news, I finally have a entry level job with better pay and benefits with a banking company. So, goodbye retail!


About this new job, I’m not nervous but anxious because I’m excited to learn something new. With this job being in the city, I am nervous about the price of parking more than the usual congested traffic. Therefore, I have to save and wait.


A week ago I flew to Florida for a little vacation to spend time with my cousins. I shopped and bought a lot of Rugrats merchandise such as a Chuckie key chain, Reptar keychain, and three Reptar bars that I have been waiting to try since I was a child.


Oh yes, I am a huge Rugrats fan. I was close to buying the Reptar cereal but did not believe in paying $13 for it. Like how is it $13? Will the cereal turn me into a dinosaur?


About the Reptar bars, I was going to freeze them before trying them because I like eating my chocolate bars frozen. Frozen chocolate bars are more delish than warm room temperature chocolate bars, but that time I was willing to try it straight out of the store.

The taste of the chocolate bar was rich with the delish green colored frosting. At first, I thought the frosting would make the bar too sweet but it was not overwhelmingly sweet. It was enough. Like other reviewers, I wished the bar was shaped like a Reptar just like the show.

And to answer the main question on whether the Reptar bar actually turned my tongue green..


No, but I had a green stripe on my tongue if that counts…

By the way, the bar was $3 dollars…probably the most money I paid for any candy bar, but the F.Y.E store had the buy 1 and get 2 free deal for the repatar bars, which explains why they still had hundreds of them still on display.

In Florida, I developed a love for flea market shopping. I bought more snacks like trail mix because I am a proud foodie. I bought many sunglasses for $5 each. Now, I know where I can find cheap sunglasses.


After returning home from Florida, I participated in the Martin Luther King parade. As I re-read and reflect on a few of his speeches, I can’t help but to wonder if today’s reality is what he dreamed of. For instance, segregation is over, we can eat, watch, and play anywhere we go, but I still see blacks and white living separately. There is still a pay wage gap between races and also gender. Police brutalities still happen but lately this controversy has died down a bit but I will not be surprised if it is still happening today. As for politics…things have changed for the worse. I no longer see the need of political parties like the Republicans and Democrats. The whole government system is not perfect just like our human-selves.


Racism is still a very sensitive topic that most people rather still avoid because it still exists, not only in the United States, but around the world. You have racism from the lowest class to the highest royals. Yes, I am talking about you, Princess Michael of Kent. 

giphy (1)

Will racism end? Not entirely. We should no longer question how to end racism, but how to recognize it, address it, and fix it.  We should raise our children to become more open-minded on what is going on in this world, not shelter them behind their textbooks. Yes, education is important but it can only prepare them for higher education and promising careers, not reality.  It all starts with being fearless and trying to place your shoes in other people’s situation.

For those who use statistics, the media, and social media  as  your support of argument, get out the house and observe the phenomenon yourself to investigate the reason why this problem still happens each year. Meet new people who are different from you to understand their situation.


You want make a change? You want to stop racism, prejudice, discrimination, or stop complaining about people pulling out the “race card” ? Stop arguing with trolls on social media, get out the house, and fix it! You will have to get uncomfortable before you get comfortable to understand other people. Ask the former Nazi how his views of people of color changed when an African American lady treated him with kindness.

Change is possible but it all starts with you.

Life Lesson #90:  A sheltered person is easily influenced, closed-minded, unreliable, and selfish. Stop seeking shelter to avoid today’s issues. Look in the mirror, get out, and get involved.

Advice, College Life, Life, Post-Grad Life, Respect

A Perfect Life Sucks!

life 1

Dear Life,

Before I graduated from college, my mind was on Optimistic Island, where I believed that completing a college degree is going to lead me into a world full of fine jobs starting at least on a $30,000 salary scale…

life 2

Oh boy was I DEAD wrong!

life 3

In case some of you are new to this blog site ,or probably missed some of my previous “post-grad blog series”, after college, I went to career fairs, applied for numerous job positions, and tried to network with friendly strangers (also became single for the first time in six years). In result, I held a temporary job as an assessment rater (graded state-wide tests) and now, I am back working full-time (more like 30 hours per week) in retail…

Now of course, there is appreciation for having a job to pay my bills and survive, but to make a living on my own is very impossible.

life 4

However, I am still job-hunting for something better. I just have to keep trying and sometimes use the job I have now to meet and network because you never know who you will meet that will change some of your life for the better.

Gosh, I do envy my cousin sometimes. She is older, currently trying to finish her college degree, but already has a job working for an insurance company that pays her so well that she is able to live on her own and travel to places every season like Las Vegas!

life 6

As for me, I am back living with my mother. However, I cannot complain, but stress that I am not where I want to be right now. On some days, I do question my abilities and wonder what I am doing wrong to prevent greater opportunities from coming. I know for one thing,   I do not fear.

When it comes to job-hunting, I refuse to feel inferior to the hiring managers even when I am a bit nervous. I pretend that I am casually meeting new potential friends with a spice of professionalism of course.

As for applying for jobs, I am only applying three to  five times a week since I have a retail job to fall back on. Before, I was putting so much pressure and stress on me  applying for at least 20 jobs per day to the point when I get emails from different companies about a job interview (mostly  rejection) and I barely remembered which companies I applied for.


life 7

Forrest is right…life is like a box of chocolates…I will never know what I am going to get.

life 8.gif

However, life has never been easy. Life is suppose to have struggles, pain, and suffering.

Imagine if life is forever perfect! That will suck, right?

Let’s take…Odysseus for example.  What if he did not have to fight in the Trojan War, bang all the goddesses, and go through hell to return back home to Ithaca. What the plot just said that he went to war, won the war, and returned home to spend time with his son? That will be a boring story, right?

Here is another example, what if Mufasa from the Lion King movie never died? What if Scar was really a good uncle? Would Simba really be the rightful and happy king of the pride lands without the suffering and discovering who he was with the help of Timon and Pumba?! Without Timon and Pumba, we will never know Hakuna Matata!

life 9

What I am trying to say is that…LIFE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PERFECT!

It is okay to go through some things that we sometimes cannot control like our emotions and mentality! If you have depression, anxiety, or other mental illness that is preventing you from having joy, remember that you are creating a beautiful life story of getting better even it is one step at a time. When you come out of that dark moment of your life, you should celebrate it and share that perfect dark yet beautiful life story to someone who is still in the dark trying to get out.  Of course mental illness is not a perfect happy story, but it is a perfect uplifting inspiration for someone who needs to hear it to know that they are NOT alone.

Having an imperfect life defines who we are. So Forrest, pass that box of chocolates!

life 10


Life Lesson #87: “Life does not give you seat-belts.” -Lego Batman

Thank You,

Lady Elle~