Advice, Anxiety/Depression, Health, Life, Stress

Hello My Dear Aunt Anxiety, its you again..

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Dear Mental Health,

Since graduating from college two years ago and entering this whole new universe of the real world, I have developed more than normal anxiety that seems to affect my everyday life to the point of losing my confidence and self-esteem that I  have built during college.

Before college the only anxiety I had was only minor like test anxiety because I was not  the  best exam taker due to my previous learning disability when it comes to mental processing, but I was confident with my studying and worked hard to earn As and Bs each semester. With making good grades and making friends in college help build my confidence and self esteem. College felt like  pleasure island where you believed you can be anything in the world once you earn that college degree…

Now, in the real world, my dear Aunt Anxiety decided to challenge me into a whole new level. The lump feeling in my throat turned into obsessive thoughts of my life decisions and the fear of failure.  The anxiety became so overwhelming, I felt as though my secret weapons against it were no longer working.



If you ask if I also have depression, I was when I was on hormonal medication. It felt like every night I take it, I feel so much sadder to the point there was a morning where I could not stop crying. I had no reason behind the tears. The tears were just flowing like a continuous broken pipe. Therefore, I had to end it all together so I can be myself mentally.


After ending my hormonal medicine, within two weeks, I was myself again. I no longer feel depressed, but my dear Aunt Anxiety still comes and visits. In order to stop Aunt Anxiety from interfering in my life more than normal, I had to seek professional help.

Now, I am seeing a spiritual counselor. She is nice. I admit, the first meeting was a little intimidating because, like every human being, I did not want to be perceived as crazy , because I think I talked too much because I feel like my mind and body was just anxious for help, guidance, and peace.


Outside of being intimidated, I was excited because since graduating with a psychology degree, I always wanted to experience what it was like to have a spiritual counselor.  To me, it feels so relieved to speak with a professional stranger because speaking with family and friends about your issues is only temporary relief because they love you so much that all they see is perfection, they will never fix that inner deep wound because they cannot see it.  That is why it is important to speak with someone outside of your social circle.

When it comes to mental health, I cannot stress more about the advantage of seeking a counselor.  Counseling can be affordable I have found counseling cheap as $65 per session. Counseling sessions are very flexible. Counseling is mostly once or twice a week for fifty minutes.. Some counselors provide sessions over the phone. Also, if you had a counselor that you did not agree with, there are a million other therapists to explore. Therefore, THERE IS NO EXCUSE!


Life Lesson #93: A healthy mind prepares for the physically challenges ahead.

Life Lesson #94: Never neglect yourself. Upgrade yourself.

Thank you,

Lady Elle~

Advice, Health, Life, Politics, Social Media

America Needs to Laugh More

Dear American Life,


The country has not been the same since the beginning of the Presidential election. Words can only express how I feel about our current nationwide situation. My heart hurts for the people who are dealing with the stress, anxiety , and despair of the current events that had, has, and will happen.

This week I had to shut off my television, take a break from social media, and refrain from any conversation about politics. I needed a complete body, mind, and spirit refresh to focus mainly on me.


On Wednesday night, I went to one of my weekly women’s bible study. Every bible study session, we would discuss about the christian-like flaws as young women, wives, and grandmothers. This week’s topic was about laughter.

Laughter was a topic every woman in that session needed because everything around us is getting crazy.

So America (and World), when was the last time we laughed? Not snickering, giggling, or chuckle. I mean that STRONG high climax laugh, that barely-breathing-crying-joy- stomach tightening -face-reddening  laugh. Laugh so consistent that one minute you stop laughing,but later keep rolling on the ground.


I say it has been a while since I had a good laugh. In fact, the last gut-tightening laugh I had was when my mother and I was on the highway heading to see my grandmother. Note, my mother was driving and her driving can be very scary due to all of the speeding, and sharp turns, and most of all the hard last minute braking!

In the car, the radio was playing “Emotions” by Mariah Carey. This was my favorite song because I love to sing all the high whistle notes. Therefore, I challenged my mother to see who can sing the highest.

Of course we could not reach those challenging high-notes….well…at my mother couldn’t. No we both were epic failures on that song. But that was not the funny part.

The funny part was when I challenged myself to sing the most challenging high note of the song when Mariah sings “…When you’re lookin into my eyes…You make me feel so high.”

Well by the time I tried to reach that high note my mother all of sudden pumped the brakes hard almost hitting a car in front of us. I was singing from “HIGHHHHHHH to HIG-AHHHHHHHHHHHH, screaming in fear like a woman in a horror movie.

My mother laughed so hard and the laughter did not hit until a few seconds later. I could NOT breathe. I was dying with laughter. It was perfect timing that day because I was so stressed out trying to graduate from college.

I surely believe that laughter does heal the soul. I wished everyday I can have a good laugh. Most of all, I want everyone especially, America to laugh more.

Talk to your friends and family, watch a funny movie or video, go to a local comedy show, or just get plain goofy!

Let us have more joy in our lives. Everyone needs a laugh to heal from the negativity.

Life Lesson #81: “A day without laughter is a day wasted,” by Charlie Chaplin.

Thank You,

Lady Elle~