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Life is Always a Test

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Dear Life,
Life can be a beautiful, expensive bowl of crazy gourmet mixed salad. I say this because whenever I order a salad at a restaurant, the dish looks beautiful, but there are certain ingredients I don’t like in it like onions, tomatoes, and carrots. I had two choices. One, I could try the salad anyway, or dig in my salad to take all of the nasty ingredients out of my bowl.

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Life is a test you are given every single day it does not matter, whether you are religious or not. Everything happens for reason whether you like the test or not. It is part of developing who you are.
You cannot escape a test because you can be tested in your home, in public, and even social media. About social media, we do tend to make worse decisions than good ones because we have the more freedom to be foolish than we are in public. Negativity will always be present on social media. It is up to you if you want to spread the fire.

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You will always be tested with people, animals, and things that are non-living.
For example, you may come across a rude person, you might encounter a lost baby bird you found abandoned (this did happen to me a few days ago), or you may accidentally hit your foot against a wall. When these things happen, we have choices of what we are going to do about it.

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Most of the time, our tests would be multiple-choice. We have good choices, bad choices, and sometimes we just don’t know what choice to make. Therefore, I will break it down below:
Bad decisions: Bad consequences, regret,and negativity
Good choice: Happiness, peace, and appreciation.
No choice: Fear, anxiety, worry, nervousness.
We all have chosen bad and good choices due to multiple reasons. However, we must try to make better choices in order to have a peace of mind.

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Bad choices can be good too because we get to learn from our mistakes. When you are stuck with no choice, sometimes we need another person to help us make a good decision.
If lucky, sometimes we are given a second chance to take the test all over again in order to pass.
Another type of life test we are given are sometimes true or false test. This is where you are being tested about what is true and what is not. For example, you hear rumors, gossip, and slander about people, and most of the time it is something that you don’t know. For example, lets say a on social media, a person posted something like….this public figure worships…bacon and is a member of a bacon cult. So, you have a decision to make on whether if the gossip is true or false.

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When I am given a true or false test, I always do my research. You cannot always trust the people you know or whatever news source you read. This type of test is what the majority of us are mostly failing due to ignorance and pride.
As for the media, I think it is good to have biased news stations like CNN and Fox news in order for us to do our OWN research to see if the current events are true or not. Every news station is flawed. In order to understand and know the facts is BEING IN THE SITUATION. You see traveling journalist risking their lives finding the real truth of what it is happening. You have people who are actually in this chaos to know the real truth. My overall point is, you will never understand the situation unless you been there!

Let me break it down…

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Don’t assume something is true if you have never been in that situation to understand what the hell is going on. This goes for race, political views, feminism, religion and the list goes on. Therefore, do your research and showing statistics does NOT help.

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Going back to life is a test…

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Sometimes certain test can last longer than we expected. Oh yes, tests can last for minutes, hours, days, and maybe years.

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In closing, Life is a test and we cannot escape it. We should never be afraid of tests because it helps develop who we are and understand life better. The choices we make comes from the lessons we study and learn from our family and village. We should never stress the bad choices that we make because we will learn from them and if we are lucky, we can take that test again. So give yourself a round of applause because you are a test survivor!

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Life Lesson #84: Every single situation in your life is significant.

Sincerely,

Lady Elle~

Advice, College Life, Crazy, Habit, Life, Respect, Social Media

Facebook Is Becoming a Drag

Dear Social Media Life,
Facebook. Yes, I want to discuss about Facebook. Recent bloggers wrote about the declining interest about staying active on this social site and for their reasons, it is understandable that like Myspace, Facebook had it’s fad and now it’s becoming a drag.

When I first heard about Facebook, I been lectured and attacked verbally by adults saying that Facebook was only for adults. Yea,like that was going to stop kids from joining. I first joined Facebook during my freshmen year in high school because it was a new way of interacting and keeping in touch with (short-term) friends at that time.However, I ended my account because it got boring but returned my freshman year in college just because I wanted to stay in touch with family members,especially my anti-social cousins.

As the years gone by, my account was collecting dust. I stopped updating my status.Facebook got boring and foolish for so many reasons. Here are a list of reasons why I closed my account:

1. Ignorance

Facebook users had become so ignorant.When it comes to certain topics especially politics and religion, ignorant users would write the most arrogant and insulting comments just to attack and make them feel like they are better. You have racists ,”fat shamers”, political jerks, and just ignorant people.For example, I replied to a news post expressing my opinion and all of a sudden, a user replied calling me a “stupid bitch”instead of just expressing why the he disagrees.

Users will be so brave to write their ignorance  online but won’t say it in public because they know they are wrong and don’t want to be right.

About Facebook friends, they can be ignorant too that you have to unfriend them or avoid their post . I have to thank facebook for revealing who they really are because you have people posting some ignorant and disturbing stuff  and that leads to #2.

#2. The post are fucking disturbing.

The videos of people fighting, the pictures of severe sick children, “like this or comment if you like this” and  a picture of a naked girl. Facebook friends posting dark depressing thoughts. Facebook friends spamming your wall with stuff from one facebook page for example, I had one user keep liking Christmas pictures from a Christmas themed facebook page and my wall was just spammed with the user liking every single Christmas picture post and the funniest part, IT WAS ONLY MAY!!!


3. My cousins and friends are still anti-social.

I still can’t get this whole social thing. I remember the good days when internet was not even a need when it came to my childhood. When we don’t see each other in person, we would just call each other on the phone just enjoying the sound of physically talking to each other. Now, I feel people just don’t like to talk at all but send snapchats and text. 7 times out of ten, they don’t reply back. As a millennial , I do worry that my generation will lose the confidence and skill of public communicatation.

4. Nothing new.

Same folks, same strokes. Same usual facebook friends that still remains on the site posting latest pictures and stuff. Same pattern of people’s facebook behaviors. People from my high school who I rarely talked to kept spamming me with friend requests.

5. On the bright side, people are maturing from facebook.

I believe people are starting to miss the moment without Facebook. Every week another person shuts down their account for common reasons. I quit facebook because I wanted to socialize with people outside of the internet. I want to get to know people as time passes not for five minutes studying about the person from his/her profile.

With quitting Facebook, I have more time to focus on me and my goals. Outside of just going to classes, I have been more active at the gym. I enjoy the outdoors. I’m more comfortable with communicating with my peers. Overall, I just been more focused.

I sure do hope someday, people will start interacting more with people outside of social sites. Don’t get me wrong , it’s OK to use social sites sometimes but don’t let it be too often because there is so much life to live outside your phone, computer,tablet etc. Even if you are an introvert, it’s worth to try something new and outgoing.

Life Lesson #78: Avoid your distractions and FOCUS!

Thank you,

Lady Elle.

Comment&Share: What is your opinion about Facebook or other social sites and why or why not you lost interest?