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I Rather Be A Wise Than A Grown Person!

I'm grown

Dear Maturity,

A grown person. What is a grown person? Some say you are grown when you are a certain mature age like 18,21, or 30. Some say you are grown when you have experienced life like education, career, marriage, having a family, and retirement. All of these descriptions about being a grown person is totally bull. Sorry,but I don’t buy it.


First of all, let us remove the word “person” and learn the definition of the word “grown”.

Grown: adjective \’grōn\

1.  no longer a child <grown men and women>

Well the word grown seems as if it defines the word “grown” as a sign of fully developed body. In other words, I guess you are considered “grown” after puberty  and I can understand that. Therefore, a grown person has nothing to do with life experiences and age.  Being a grown woman and man may give you benefits ,but it does not make you fully mature and wise.

Trust me, it makes me laugh how some people claim to be a grown person and claim to be mature when you still have some “grown” people that still don’t have common sense. I can’t stand when some people pull out the “grown person” card. They can pull it out as much as they want but they do not deserve the maturity card.

As a young adult about turn 21 years old this year, I rather be a wise person because becoming wise means that you are in a process of gaining knowledge from your life experiences which includes learning from your mistakes. With wisdom and maturity, you will know how to deal issues in the future.  With my developing wisdom, I always want to share it with my family, friends, and of course my blog reading audience.

Some people mistake celebrities to be role models ,but role models should be the parents. I can’t say parents are not perfect role models but they try their hardest to be. When it comes to raising a child, parents do make mistakes. For example, my step-father threw away my all of my Barbie dolls without telling me because he thought I was getting too old for playing dolls. Once my mother found out, she did get angry with him. As for me, I was very upset and never forgave him. Now, as I think about it, I can understand why my step-father did what he did because he has a daughter, and she was the same age as me. At that time, she was outgoing and did not play Barbies. So I guess with this observation from my step-father, he decided to throw all of my toys away for me to be outgoing like his daughter and other kids my age. Therefore, I can understand that he did it to become a role model for me, but he would of handled the situation in a different way and I can see now, every time my mother will bring up the past , I can see in his eyes he made a mistake and feels bad for what he did. As for me, he would of handled the issue by personally talking and expressing his feelings about me not being outgoing as the other preteens. He would have encouraged me to be interested in sports and other outdoor activities in order to make more friends so I can become outgoing. For the first time in my life, I forgive him. I know he wants what is best for me, but all I want from him and my mother is the love, support and respect for my life choices. I know there are things about me they disagree about like me wanting to study journalism and writing, but in order for me to be successful, I am going to need support from my parents.

Life Lesson #65: Mistakes happen but we must learn to brush it off and keep moving. Just remember to learn from it and prevent it from happening again.

Thanks For Reading,

Lady Elle~



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